Thursday, September 29, 2016

Secrets To Fix Your Sex Life (part 1)

(I’d like to start out by stating that this article is mainly for women, but there will be information included that anyone may find helpful.)

Sex, specifically the feminine side of it, has been a subject of taboo in the western world for far too long. To this day we have doctors who deny the fact that women are capable of having orgasms. Women's health has been so widely neglected, to the point that sexual health isn't addressed unless something has already gone wrong.

Some of us find ourselves with low sex drives, weak sensations inside of the vagina, and weak orgasms. Sometimes we find ourselves in the unfortunate situation of being incapable of reaching climax at all.

Address and eliminate the cause of low sex drive.

An unusually low sex drive can be caused by quite a few things. Sometimes our hormones are imbalanced, and so our natural sexual drive disappears. In this case, there are a few exercises I will share with you below to help correct this naturally.
We may feel like our partners aren't satisfying our needs so we don't look at sex in a positive light. We come to suppress our desire for it.
Maybe we feel tired, drained, and more stressed afterwards, because making love doesn't feel like “making love should.”

Determine whether you and your partner are a good match.

One of the reasons i have personally experienced low sex drive is because my partner at the time was addicted to pornography. Due to his addiction, my sexual needs weren’t being met. I was denied sex practically every time I initiated because he felt his body couldn't handle any more stimulation. When we did have sex I was left unsatisfied because the act was seemingly derived from a place of domination and selfish satisfaction on his side. Sometimes I found myself dwelling on feelings of humiliation because I allowed him to do things to me that I would have normally been opposed to because I thought that he would want to be with me more if I didn't ‘nag’ or ‘complain.’ over time, I stopped looking forward to sex because everything revolving around it was a disappointment so my naturally strong drive shriveled up and died.

The few times I did speak my mind and shared what I needed to change in our sex life, my requests were ignored. Long story short, that relationship did not last.
In this rare case, my partner was unwilling to change his ways. I felt this wasn't fair to me, so I ‘eliminated’ him from my life with a clean conscience. We all deserve to be with a loving partner who respects us and cares about our needs as much as they care about their own.

Back on the subject of pornography,

As far as my observations go, some men who have been exposed to it are programmed to think that sex is supposed to be like the experiences witnessed on the computer screen. Unfortunately, the 'lovemaking' they now know is unnatural and imbalanced. They act out these fantasies seen on the screen with the help of ego-filled encouragement which makes them think they're doing everything their partner ever dreamed of. So many women aren't being satisfied in the ways we naturally have a desire for because of this.

That being said, just because a man uses pornography doesn't mean he doesn't love you or care about you. It could be the complete opposite. He could be watching it because he feels he isn't doing enough for you and wants to gain more experience without technically cheating. He probably doesn't realize the source of his sexual information is doing more harm to your sex life than good. It is important to have open communication with your sexual partner so that this whole mess can be avoided.

The optimistic side of the situation being said, your spouse very well could be watching porn out of truly selfish reasons. Although, 99 times out of 100 it has absolutely nothing to do with you so please try not to take it personally. Whether or not your spouse uses porn does not determine your attractiveness or worth.

It is your responsibility to determine whether or not pornography in your relationship is something that you can live with. If it turns out to be something that you are uncomfortable with no matter how much you try and reason with it, that's okay. You do not have to invite anything into your life that you do not truly want. You control your own comforts. Do not settle for less than what's best for you.

A small tip to those who don’t know the difference between lovemaking and the porn experience: Most women do not want to experience pain, discomfort, total domination, etc., during lovemaking. The women you see on the computer are actors who are doing what they're told for a paycheck. 99% of the time, women do not want this. Unless you have had a talk with your spouse ahead of time about likes and dislikes and are sure that you know their needs, wants, and desires like the back of your hand, don't assume your wife wants to be deep throated while you call her a little slut. Don't assume she wants to be your little toy, and that you can go as hard and as fast as you please. Don't think that she isn't concerned about her own needs as much as she, and you, are about yours. If you find yourself doing these things or thinking about doing them, talk with your partner first before acting them out.

Practice open communication with your partner.

“It takes two to tango” means much more than just the physical act of ‘dancing.’ Both partners need to be able to communicate openly with each other. The more clear the communication is, the closer the two become to mastering the art of the dance. It is when translucent communication occurs that the partners are able to learn even the most intimate of steps.

Master dancers aren't in competition with each other; they aren't trying to race to the finish line. They calculate each step with as much thought for their partner as the partner also does for them which results in the smooth, satisfyingly exciting dance. These dancers definitely deserve a gold medal for mastering the art of communication.

If you don't like something, say it. If you want something, say it. Your partner can not read your mind. If they are a right match for you, they probably want to know they are doing a good job at satisfying your needs and will appreciate input on how to do just that.

Us human beings are naturally sensitive creatures. Some much more than others, but we all have the ability to pick up on the energy of others, especially those who are closest to us. If you're not enjoying yourself, your partner will most likely notice. Don't lie or hide how you feel or what you want. This isn't right or fair for anyone involved. Be aware of your partners feelings and needs as much as your own by keeping the line of communication open.

Take responsibility for your own pleasure.

When we completely depend on others, we will always be disappointed. This truth applies to all aspects of our lives, including moments of intimacy. We can't blame our loving, generous partners for our inability to have a strong orgasm (or any at all). When your spouse seems to be trying and we just aren't feeling it, the problem doesn't lie within them, it's an issue within ourselves, and here's why:

In America, women are told during pregnancy to do “kegels” to prepare the pelvic floor for delivery, and to strengthen it afterwards. This is about as far as instruction concerning vaginal care goes. We aren't even instructed from a young age to do Kegels regularly throughout our lives. We are told that our vaginas will snap back into place after childbirth, and that we won't have to worry about feeling ‘loose.’ This is partially true, the vagina does go back to the same size and shape as it was before labor and delivery, but the muscles themselves become significantly weaker. This is where urinary incontinence and less sensation during intercourse comes into play.

Some women are unable to experience intense vaginal orgasms before giving birth, and afterwards the weak sensations seem to disappear all together. Some of us may have never been able to experience any kind of orgasm at all!

I am here to tell you that there is plenty of action, and preventative action that will help you not only avoid and fix these problems, but you can actually have more strength and sensation than ever before!

There are exercises more advanced than Kegels.

We aren't told during P.E in high school that our vagina is a muscle capable of being exercised like any other muscle, so it may seem strange to treat it as such. But that's exactly what we as women who care about our reproductive health should be doing. When we don't exercise, we become weak and less energetic, we may feel pain, the muscles begin to atrophy, and many health risks rise due to the neglect our body experiences. Our vaginas aren't any different just because they aren't talked about as often or as openly as biceps and abs.

The advanced kegel exercises i am about to share with you will boost your vaginal strength, heighten sex drive, increase vaginal sensitivity, fix hormonal imbalances, and enable more intense orgasms. This is something every woman and girl should know about because it is so powerful at preventing reproductive issues.

While doing Kegels, we single out the vagina and the anus. The more advanced version is felt throughout both of these areas, along with your uterus, ovaries, and in your lower back around the kidneys.

To start:

Stand or sit straight and place your hands over your uterine area.

Slightly angle the hips forward, similar to how you do when you flex your buttocks.
Gently flex your vagina and anus like you would during a kegel, but instead of singling out the vagina and anus, allow all of the muscles that naturally want to flex as well, i.e., your lower abs.

Once you are able to flex all of the surrounding muscles, intensify the flex so that it is felt ‘inside’ of the uterus. If you are doing this properly, you will be able to notice the warm energy radiating inside of your ovaries and throughout your lower back as well!

Advanced Exercise for Vagina:

Rotate your hips VERY SLIGHTLY in a clockwise direction 9 or so times, taking the time to completely relax the flexed muscles in between each rotation. Complete relaxation is absolutely important so do not cheat.

After the 9th time, intensely flex the muscles so you feel the sensation in your ovaries, and then relax completely. Do this 9 times as well.

Do the rotations again, but this time go in a counterclockwise direction.
This whole exercise takes about 5 minutes, but after doing this for about a week you will notice an intense difference in strength and feeling.

Let's talk about yoni eggs.

There is still so much more we can do, starting with ‘yoni eggs.’ This is a small, egg shaped device that you insert into the vagina. You hold it in while you go throughout your day. You can perform kegels, or even better, ‘advanced Kegels’ for a more enhanced effect. Yoni eggs have been used all over the world for centuries because of their miraculous health benefits.

Vaginal weight lifting is a real thing.

Some yoni eggs have predrilled holes in them specifically for the purpose of adding a stringed weight to them. When weight is added, like any other muscle, we are able to exercise and strengthen the vaginal muscles more intensely than we would by using only our body. The idea of lifting weights with your vagina can seem a bit intimidating, but your body will love you for it! So few women are doing this, that once you start it's almost certain that your spouse will have no other experience like the one he will share with you!

Vaginal weights paired with the advanced kegel exercises will boost your vaginal strength, heighten sex drive, increase vaginal sensitivity, and enable more intense orgasms. On top of that, sometimes it's just fun to see random objects hanging from your vagina.
(Yes, I just said that out loud.)

Eat a healthy diet

The body needs high quality fluids and food to keep itself running like a finely oiled machine. The term “you are what you eat” should be taken literally, because what you eat becomes the materials used in the natural regeneration process that all bodies go through. When we feed ourselves junk lacking in necessary nutrients, our bodies have to find ways to compensate for this loss. This is usually done by diverting our organs from their normal job to perform in ways that will produce the missing nutrients. This quickly becomes detrimental to our overall health as our organs can not handle the heavy workload that has suddenly been forced upon it.

By ensuring that we eat plenty of natural, live foods we are protecting our bodies from unnecessary health problems. The reproductive system, especially that of a woman who regenerates parts of itself during every menstrual cycle, absolutely requires a sufficient amount of healthful nutrients.

Also, for those of us who enjoy oral sex, remembering that we are what we eat can become crucial to the taste of your natural fluids.

Would you rather subject your loving partner to the byproduct of hot cheetos and diet pepsi or pineapples and natural spring water?

Speaking of water,

Many of us just don't drink enough of it! To keep the body running smoothly, you need to drink half of your weight in ounces of water every single day. Not juice, not coffee, not water with flavoring drops in it. The digestive system treats liquids separate from pure drinking water the same way it treats food. Our bodies desperately need raw water for optimal health.

Another thing to keep in mind when we reach for the soda bottle on the counter is that Plasma is 92% water which makes up 55% of our blood volume! This is a small example of how abundantly water can be found and shows how crucially it is needed.  Water is an irreplaceable and necessary liquid. It needs to be supplied abundantly every single day to keep our bodies running smoothly.

Ladies (and any gentlemen that may still be reading), a happy and successful sex life starts within. When we take proper care of ourselves by choosing to eat and drink the healthiest options available to us, exercise daily, and use our voices to communicate with our loving partners, that dull, uncomfortable sex life will disappear.

This article got a little long so part 2 will be coming soon for all who seek the secrets to fix their sex life!

-Sara Floyd
-Be Divine. Bodivine.

Saturday, September 24, 2016

How To Be Okay When Things Don't Always Go Your Way

Feeling like we always need things to go our way is a false need that exists in our consciousness, planted and continually nourished by fear. This need represents the ego-born thoughts of the mind that acknowledge the illusion of insecurity. When we are insecure about our lives and relationships, it is partially because we are fearful of the unknown. The nature of ‘the future’ is completely unpredictable, and so we are all forced to take a gamble with choices, actions, and reactions in hopes of the outcome being in our favor. When we take this gamble and form our aspirations from a place of fear, i.e., anger, control, guilt, sadness, or pure selfish, we can expect the outcome of our choices and actions to also be rooted from this same energy. We attract what we are.

Negative thoughts left unchecked have the power to create negative actions and reactions which, in turn creates negative situations. When these situations are left unattended to, they become the equivalent of a boulder barreling down a steep hill. Once the boulder becomes seemingly unstoppable, it invokes feelings of panic and creates the result of chaos. That being said, moments of chaos provide us with the opportunity to choose the path of immaculate growth, stagnation, or even demotion.

When we 'lose' our bet with life due to actions and aspirations fueled by fear, we are then blessed with this chaotic fork in the road. This is the light in the situation; this is the moment when we can choose the energy that will fill our future outcomes. We can lead our life using the same energy that gave us the outcome we didn't want, i.e., fear, or we can choose to use the opposite energy of divine love and rightfully expect different results by doing so.

By continually choosing fear, we are choosing the easiest, most familiar route. We neglect our free will and give our power away to outside forces which, in turn, traps us in the devastating cycle of disappointment that haunts us every time we ‘fail.’

As long as we look outside of ourselves for happiness and contentment, we will continue to give our lives to someone else to lead. When we depend on others to bring us the happiness we seek, we will always be disappointed. Only we can reap true, everlasting happiness upon ourselves.

Luckily we have another option, which is to choose the path of divine love. Because of the gift of free will, we have the ability to take complete control of ourselves. This means that we have full power over our  thoughts, feelings, actions, and reactions. This is power that is solely ours unless we choose to give it away. When we come to acknowledge and trust the power that we hold within, we regift ourselves with the ability to find the lesson, the light and the love in every situation. By becoming conscious of, and taking responsibility for our every thought, emotion, action, and reaction, we are equipped with all of the tools needed to create our own realities.  This is what it means to be mindful. For example :
You feel lonely because your spouse doesn't talk to you much. You don't have to feed into the loneliness, it is a choice to do so. By looking for the light in the situation, you change your reality. "I have all of this free time to do what I love. I am loving my husband and that alone brings me happiness. I don't need to receive anything from anyone else to feel a certain way. I don't need love and attention from others to feel worthy because I love myself and can give attention to myself. I alone hold the key to my happiness." These are all truths that must be acknowledged. We must find a way to be content within and not fall into the trap of seeking outwards. We must stop neglecting ourselves internally. Start saying, "I must... to be happy" and stop saying, "they must... to make me happy".

When our aspirations for the future are built on the foundational energy of divine love, and when we use mindfulness effectively, the outcome will always be something that we feel we are pleased with, and something that we look forward to once we come to trust ourselves through practice. The lessons we learn when faced with ‘failure’ and negative situations are invaluable and absolutely necessary for our growth. They are all precious moments to practice and apply mindfulness!

Having gratitude for all of the things that you are blessed with is a powerful emotion and tool interwoven within the energy of divine love. Gratitude is such a  dominant energy that it is completely necessary to take apply while staring a negative outcome in the face and also while mindfully creating our own realities. This simple energy has the power to obliterate feelings stemmed from fear; it can destroy greed and selfishness, build and reinforce feelings of stability, and reap happiness upon us as a ‘side effect’ of its use.

By practicing the use of mindfulness and gratitude, we give freely of ourselves the tools needed to overcome disappointment and fear, and we regift ourselves with the seemingly lost abilities needed in order to form our perceptions from the source of divine love.

Practice makes perfect. ♡
-Sara Floyd
-Be Divine. Bodivine.

Thursday, September 22, 2016

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How I Changed My Life and My Relationship Using Only My Mind

“I feel lonely. Why doesn't my husband look at me anymore? Nothing I do is good enough. Why is my relationship failing? My sex life sucks. I am so angry at him.”

These are a few of the toxic thoughts among the many that cluttered my mind on a seemingly daily basis. This mindset was so overwhelming that I felt deeply depressed, I harbored resentment against my husband and myself, and most of all, I felt trapped in a life that was the equivalent of an energy sapping nightmare. I didn't see a way out; I was stuck in this devastating cycle. My life and energy revolved around chasing after my husband  like my life depended on it. I felt like a dog running after its own tail.

This nightmare didn't last forever, though. I started searching for perfect answers and cure-all remedies. When applied, the “magic formulas” i found scattered across the web worked for a little while, but once the freshness of the technique wore off I noticed my husband becoming distant and uninterested, yet again.

These temporary solutions weren't doing enough for me. I still felt trapped in a cycle, always looking for the next best thing in hopes of catching my beloved’s eye once again. I spent so much time and effort devouring information, but it seemed like nobody had the mystical elixir that I desperately needed to fix my relationship and my life for good.

This is when the most amazing thing happened to me; I started to search within for the answers I needed. It was after taking this small, simple step that I began to truly look at myself.

Here is what I learned the hard way so that you don't have to:

I realized that I wasn't making conscious choices.

My mind was so consumed by hurt, anger, and fear of my reality that I was missing the bigger picture. Everything I do is by choice. Once I realized this, I gave the gift of mindfulness back to myself. I was choosing how I thought, how I felt, and what I did. No one else in existence has the authority to control me or how I live unless I give my power away.
Once I realized how much of myself I wasn't taking responsibility for, I worked towards getting this power back. I decided to choose exactly where my energy was going, and more importantly, I gave myself the ability to choose what form that energy presented itself as. Through meditation, I applied mindfulness techniques that helped me recognize my emotions, choose which thoughts I gave attention to, and eventually learned to control the impulsive anger and hurt that came up so frequently, replacing it with feelings of unconditional love instead.

I wasn't thinking critically about the things that I “know to be true.”

Our society has given us a list of standards and expectations from a very young age that are expected of us, therefore we are programmed to expect things from others. When others don't meet these pre-established expectations, because of this programming we impulsively resort to the victim mentality, to anger, or we feel we have the right to punish others for their “lack.”

“he doesn't love me, I wasn't good enough for him, I'm not pretty enough, I'm not interesting enough, he's incompetent, he doesn't deserve me, if he doesn't (insert demands here) I'm going to be really angry and I'll give him hell…”

We are told that we will get married and live happily ever after, our husbands will meet our every need, we should be the only beautiful thing our husbands looks at, otherwise there is something wrong with them. Even worse, we may think that there is something wrong with us. if we do this or that we should get something back for it. We own our spouse and they own us because we become each other's one and only for life when we said “I do.” We are expected to sacrifice our happiness for the ‘greater good,’ meaning our marriage or our children's future, or to avoid embarrassment of public ‘failure’ such as divorce.

But why? Why is our husband responsible for our happiness? Why is it that we feel the need to be the most physically attractive being on this earth to our spouse to the point of prohibiting him from noticing any other beauty? Why do we feel the need to be the center of his attention? Why is it that we take vows and exchange rings to symbolize our dedication to one another, only to be upset when him coming home to us goes from a choice to an obligation down the road because things have fallen into a routine and he's bored? Why do we tell ourselves that our love is unconditional when in reality, with all of these expectations, it is the opposite? Why do we believe that our spouses are only allowed to love us, and we are only allowed to love them? Why do we feel like we have the right to punish others when we feel angry or afraid of the future? These are all very valid questions! Take the time to ponder on them, along with anything else that comes into mind. You can never ask yourself too many questions.

I learned how to change my perception.

By asking myself all of those hard questions, along with many more, I gave myself the power to see things from a very neutral viewpoint. I realized that all of these expectations I had given others, my husband, and even myself were trapping me. They gave me a false sense of control over my life, and over others. This was very dangerous and extremely deceitful.  Over time and after a lot of wrestling with my ego, I freed myself from the illusion that happiness and love can only exist in a small, preconditioned box. I recognized that my perception is my world, therefore if I could somehow change it, I would have the power to create the life of happiness and love that my heart longed for.

Since my mind, my ego, is naturally pessimistic and negative when I am in a low vibratory state, I started to consciously focus on the positive. I couldn't keep listening and obeying negativity with the expectation of a positive outcome. After all, the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. I was ready to break free of this insane cycle, which I allowed myself to ride through for so long, so I started out by doing what seemed easiest. I started doing the complete opposite of what I was already doing. I began to consciously seek out to the light in everything.

I notice my husband gazes at the pretty waitress at the restaurant on my birthday when he thinks I won't notice, or maybe he does it out of subconscious impulse and even he doesn't notice. Whatever the reason may be, in a situation like this, it would be very easy for me to get angry and listen to my ego say, “how dare he?! And on my birthday? I must be worthless in this man's eyes, he must not really love me.” But instead I choose to tune into my heart and see the situation in a clear light for what it really is.

That waitress is pretty! I can acknowledge her beauty, my husband can acknowledge her beauty, even she can acknowledge her beauty. What a wonderful birthday gift to see such a beautiful sight. Where is the harm in that? The ego might say that you are the only beautiful thing that your husband is allowed to look at, but asking yourself the critical questions above shows you in your heart that the ego is deceiving you. You have control over what you see, and how you see it.

I rediscovered the true source of happiness.

Once being mindful of my energy and the ability to use the power of perception came easier to me, I was able to see where true happiness came from. Afew different elements make up the recipe, including truly loving yourself, loving others with all of your heart, and doing what you love. Notice I didn't mention the need for love from an outside source. Nobody else can provide you true happiness but yourself.

The need to love yourself is absolutely crucial because you can not love and feel true happiness with all of your heart until you have mastered this. When you love yourself, the idea of competition is eliminated. You no longer feel intimidated by other women (or men), and you certainly don't feel the need to find gratification and acceptance outside of your own being. You come to appreciate the beauty in everything.

To love yourself also means that you give yourself the time to do what you love. We each have a purpose. Every single one of us has gifts and talents. When we choose to acknowledge them and build on them, gratification above all else makes itself available to us. When you come to the realization that your works bring you true joy, when you do what brings you that warm feeling of joy and happiness, it is important to put your time and energy into doing exactly that. You have much more mental free time when you give up the baggage of the world, the rules and expectations pushed on you as a child, the need to seek for love outside, etc.. put this time to good use and benefit yourself by doing what you love because you love yourself! The greatest investment is in yourself, and I'm not talking about money!

Now, think about a time that you felt truly happy. Analyze the situation. Did it stem from knowing that someone else loves you, or from reciprocating that love back to them? I know that in my lifetime there have been many times that I have been unloving even when someone else was showing me their love for me. I didn't feel happy then. There are times when I felt love for others who weren't necessary being loving towards me, but I was definitely happy. Both of these situations are important experiences to learn from because they show the truth. When I was being loving I was happy, when I was unloving I wasn't. True, everlasting happiness comes from expressing love in all that you do. Being love, showing love, giving love, it is all to ‘BE love,’ which is happiness. There is not much else to be said on this because it is as simple as that!

I stopped judging others, along with myself.

Along with learning to love myself, recognizing my greatness and potential, and loving others wholeheartedly, I realized that judging others goes completely against who I am! To judge is to put someone else down while bringing yourself up. Sure, this may bring temporary gratification, but it is never for your own benefit, no matter how well meaning you think it is. All forms of judgment create blocks and inhibit growth.

Here is a very broad example:

As much as we want to say that our husband's newly discovered mistresses are “sluts” and a “whores”, and our husband's are “good for nothing cheaters,” we have to ask ourselves, “what good will judging them and spewing out negativity bring me? What good will it bring them? What good will it bring the world?”

I know, I'm crazy right? But think about it… We choose everything in our lives. Our perception, actions, words, thoughts, which feelings we wish to splurge on, what situations we allow ourselves to be in, the people we let into our lives, our own happiness even. Why would we want to inhibit that by slowing our great progress literally to the point of stagnation by regressing back to obeying the negative ego on command? It is perfectly natural and even important to feel hurt when something so big and unexpected happens, but it's equally as important to dig up the root of the pain and fix the problem instead of inhibiting growth by unnecessary judgments of others and making it worse.

Ask yourself, “what is the root of this pain?” Is it the ego is telling you to be upset because you weren't the center of his universe? Are you judging yourself because you feel like you aren't good enough? Are you feeling this pain because you feel deceived by someone you trusted so intimately? Is it jealousy because you feel you've sacrificed so much while he's off having ‘fun’? The reason could be anything, and it's different for everyone. But there is great importance behind these seemingly painful experiences. The lessons that become available to us through them are invaluable.

Look closely at your husband, he's living his life the way he wants. He's not making any sacrifices, and does as he pleases. He's not letting anyone or anything get in his way. His actions cause you to hurt, but you can learn from this if you truly want to. His infidelity coming into light is showing you where you have room to learn and grow.

I am in no way excusing what he did, because being deceitful and breaking the bond of trust that a romantic couple should share is a very painful thing to experience. I am not even saying that what he did was right or justifiable. All I'm doing is giving you a reminder that the memories don't have to be a painful experience that linger in your mind forever. Learn from your husband and start doing what brings you joy and happiness, but learn enough to do this with integrity and with a heart filled with love. Stop sacrificing yourself to emotions, thoughts, and mindsets that do not serve you. Invest in yourself. Love yourself enough to allow yourself to learn the lessons that come your way. Live karma-free.

I shared the gift of unconditional forgiveness freely

Forgiving someone doesn't have to be so hard. once you've mastered the gifts of perception, self-love, and have reprogrammed yourself with a judgement-free mindset, forgiveness becomes much easier. When someone hurts us and we hold onto the pain, we are hurting ourselves. The stress and sadness from holding a grudge brings on illness and depression. It seemingly traps us into another cycle of destruction, similar to the ones we've been working so hard to escape! It is crucial to your own health and wellbeing that you take the time to sit with your emotions long enough to acknowledge them, and then transform them by deciding to come from a place of love. Do not dwell on the grudges. Do not fall back into the victim mentality and feed into the ego while analyzing the feelings behind them. Lead with your heart, do your best to find the light, discover and learn the hidden lesson(s), and then move on from it.

You don't need an apology to forgive someone for hurting you. Forgiveness comes from the same place as happiness, which is formed from the same energy as unconditional love, which comes from inside of you. Like happiness, no one can make you forgive but yourself.

If you're still having trouble forgiving someone, close your eyes and envision whatever it is they did that ignited negative feelings inside of you. Acknowledge the feelings, notice their presence, and imagine the person who hurt you says, “I love you, I'm sorry.” allow yourself to feel compassionately towards this person for their apology. Next, imagine them telling you, “please forgive me.” Here you invoke in a flood of love and even more compassion until the feelings of pain, anger, resentment,etc. are washed away. The person in your mind may now say, “thank you.” Allow yourself to feel nothing but gratitude and love at this point. Do this as often as it takes for the forgiveness to come to fruition in your heart. Every time you catch yourself harboring a grudge follow the formula.

I love you,
I'm sorry,
please forgive me,
thank you.”

I recognized the truth

The truth is not what we've been told, it's not what we've been programmed to believe. The truth is what we are.
You have the strength to get through anything. You have enough love for everyone. You are more than  ‘good enough’ and deserve to live a happy life because you exist. You alone have the power to change your life. You are an infinite being with infinite potential.
Allow this seed of truth to grow within you. Nourish it and allow yourself to become the greatest version of yourself. Let yourself truly be.

Everyone has their own free will, just like you.

The reality is, we do not own our partners just as they don't own us. They are free, sovereign beings who make their own choices. When we find ourselves being controlling or try to dictate what another being can or cannot do, we are infringing on their sovereignty. We are trying to enslave them. We are trying to demote  them from the infinite beings with infinite potential (which they truly are as we all are) to an object of density. We are not valuing this person in the way they deserve to be valued. We are mixing love with ownership. Allow others to fly. The ones who truly matter will come back out of choice, and not obligation.

Unconditional love doesn't mean that you have to live a conditional life.

Stop saying “I'll be happy if…” and start saying “I am happy when…”

When you come to recognize the beauty and the power within yourself, life gets easier. But it doesn't end there. You don't have to stay in the same place forever. You don't have to surround yourself with the same, familiar people that filled your old life. Eventually you will get to a point where you no longer fear change, you embrace it with open arms. There are infinite possibilities in this life for you, and only you can choose whether or not you want to live them.

If you're in a place where you feel uninspired or unmotivated it is time to expose yourself to a different environment. New exposure causes lessons, lessons cause growth, growth causes a great version of yourself, which creates a greater life.

If you get to the point where you want to leave your current life behind, do it because you are ready to experience something else, not because your spouse isn't making you happy. The results you seek are in the first option.

If you'd like to stay, go ahead and stay! Light and love are limitless. No matter where you are, you alone have the capability to incorporate both of these beautiful gifts into your life on a daily basis.

Before I end this message, I'd like to add something near and dear to me heart, if you are in an abusive relationship, this is more than enough of a reason to move on. Nobody deserves to be harmed. Nothing you do or have done justifies abuse of any kind. Love yourself enough to respect your health and let go of the situation. Life is brighter when you're not getting beat. There is hope for you, and there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

-Sara Floyd
-Be Divine. Bodivine.

Wednesday, September 21, 2016

How Bodivine Can Help You Be Divine

The word ‘divine’ is widely misconstrued these days. What is the first thing that pops into your head? Saintly? Religious? Angelic? These definitions aren't wrong, but they certainly aren't how I choose to use the word. To be divine is to connect with your higher self, to find inner happiness, to flourish and thrive in all aspects of your life; mind, body, soul and spirit, which will cause you to bloom into the greatest version of yourself.

For the majority of my life I was asleep. I wandered around like a zombie on autopilot. I had no goals, ambitions, or happiness. I felt lost, lonely, incapable, redundant, depressed, anxious, stressed… I felt broken. I was so low that I didn't allow myself to dream to avoid heartbreak. For many years I carried on slowly with my feet entrenched in this muddy emotional state. I wasn't living, I was hopelessly surviving. I thought that I didn't have a purpose, a reason to live.
As sad and hard as this time was for me, I didn't allow it to permanently be me. I didn't allow it to become the end of me or my existence.

No matter how mindless or miserable I was, I always had a deep, nagging thought that reoccurred quite often; “there must be more to life than this.” I had an epiphany one day which cause me to ponder more on that annoying, angering thought, “what if there truly is more? What is more? Can I have more?” and thus my search for truth began.

I began to devour information like my life depended on it. I scoured books, the internet, whatever reading materials I could get my hands on for ‘the truth, the secret, the forbidden knowledge that would change my life.’ Bits and pieces of helpful, useful information were found everywhere, but the big picture was never quite clear. I started to grow impatient. “why wasn't my life changing? After all, I've read all of these books, I know all of these valuable things.” like a ton of rocks, the truth dropped on my chest. I had been soul searching without. My answers were within me all along, I just wasn't trusting myself enough to truly listen. I wasn't applying the wisdom found within my heart. I was inhibiting myself from the divine change waiting for my acknowledgment within.

I learned how to trust myself, how to understand my intuitive gifts, which in turn made my life purpose clear:
I went through all of this hard stuff so that you don't have to.

Here on Bodivine I have compiled a treasury of life changing lists, tips, tactics, challenges, motivational guidance, and aid of all shapes and sizes to help you rediscover your hidden inner power, restore balance in your life, and find the peace, joy, and love in all, including the darkest of situations. Within us all is a seed of great divinity, waiting to be watered and nourished so that we may become the greatest version of ourselves.
I have dedicated my heart and mind to the works created and shared with you on this site in order to aid in the restoration of hope, divinity, love and happiness in all who feel lost, lonely, or abandoned. It is my intention to share with the world all that I know and believe in for the betterment, enlightenment, and awakening of all who seek as I once did and still do.

Bodivine came into existence because of a collective need in this world to know the forbidden truth. It's creation is meant to reach out and shine a light of love, service and guidance to those who yearned for "the more in life."

Thank you for tuning in. I wish you all of the love and happiness that you deserve. This is your birthright. ♡

-Sara Floyd
Be Divine. Bodivine.

Warm Welcome With Open Arms To All

First, I'd like to congratulate you on taking the first step towards creating a new life! Whether you realize it right now or not, you have opened doors to a lifetime of possibilities.

There are two kinds of people on this earth, those that dream, wish, and wait, and those that do. After noticing an influx of information on the Internet and in new books basically telling people to “believe hard enough and it will come true,” I realized that a very big, critically important piece of the puzzle was missing. Dreams are a beautiful thing to be cherished and loved, but without RADICAL ACTION they are forever trapped in dreamland. Everything that we imagine and everything that we desire exists the moment we create it with our minds, but that is the only place it exists until we do the work to manifest our dreams in the physical realm. You have all of the power within yourself to make all of your dreams come true. By looking for answers, by taking action, you have placed yourself on the path of true happiness and success.

Lots of love,

Sara Floyd